But when the majority of black guys are in a relationship, and the white guys think you’re an experiment. When I walk around campus, I feel envious when I see a white girl and black guy. In latest statistics, as of now, the most common relationship is a white woman and black man. So my approach to this situation last time was to take charge and go after your dream Tom Cruise when he played in the Outsiders. We are amazing witty, charismatic and have a glow that no other race can come close to.
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While scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed, I came across a link to a Gawker article that one of my friends reposted.
It was Britni Danielle’s "Nobody Cares That You Date White Girls" piece for Clutch magazine that caused me to go back and reevaluate. Lots of people in this country would like to believe that race relations are swell, racism is dead, and everyone is happy. Image: Gallup There's a belief among some members of racial groups that one who dates outside of that race is disloyal, self-loathing, or has, for lack of a better word, been brainwashed. As author Lincoln Blades asserts in a piece at Uptown magazine, we need to promote an honest discussion about interracial relationships. It's hard to face the truth that educated and talented women like Mac Arthur Fellow Tiya Miles feel contempt towards black men who date white women.
I couldn't stop repeating the first part of the Clutch headline over and over again in my head. She wrote in a Huffington Post blog late last year: It is the same sharp tug of disappointment that gets me every time I see a black man with a white woman on his arm.
“Dee Dee there isn’t anything wrong with black girls, I mean I wouldn’t date one seriously, I’ll just do it for the experience”. Black girls are seen as an experiment, an experience to be had.
You didn’t have the full college experience unless you dated a black girl right?I grew up thinking that because I looked different, I somehow wasn't good enough.When you look at the role models of my youth, the people and products the media put forth and said, “This is beauty personified,” you’ll notice a distinct theme: Barbie, Britney Spears, Polly Pocket, Sailor Moon, Mandy Moore, Mary Kate and Ashley — all white.In an essay entitled "The Reality of Dating White Women When You're Black," writer Ernest Baker tackles big topics like Eurocentric beauty standards, the taboo aspect of interracial relationships, and why he dates white women, among others: Why do I date white women?Black women have told me it's because I'm a sellout.For instance, I felt the need to defend my relationships to my mother who, like Baker’s mother, wondered when her daughter would bring home someone who looked more Michael B. My mother will resent me for saying this, but I know there is a part of her that wanted to see me settle down with someone black, someone who looked like me.